The song was right! Girls just want to have fun. Here’s how to entertain a girl over text and keep her coming back for more of your wit and charm.
Have you ever wondered how to entertain a girl over text? Does it make a difference? I’ve found that you don’t have to entertain a girl through text to get her out and on a date, but having the skill set still helps me:
1. Keep long-term female friendships going even when we don’t meet often.
2. Keep long-term intimate options open, even when we’ve yet to meet up.
3. Convince a girl to meet up if she’s unsure about me or busy.
4. Get a girl excited about me.
5. Have lots of hilarious conversations over text that make me actually LOL and my week feels that much cooler.
Entertaining a girl is not about tap dancing for her. Rather, it’s about getting your unique voice across. Obviously, communication limitations occur with texting. [Read: 20 powerful communication techniques that will transform your relationship]
The Basics of Texting Etiquette
Entertaining someone when you’re together face to face has its perks—you get immediate feedback, you can see their reactions, and let’s be honest, sometimes just your presence can lighten up the atmosphere.
But how do you keep that spark alive through text? It’s a different ballpark where you can’t rely on body language, facial expressions, or tone of voice to convey your mood or intent.
When you’re figuring out how to entertain a girl over text, remember that she can’t hear the tone of your voice or see the twinkle in your eye. All she has are your words and maybe a few emojis to decipher what you’re trying to say. This means every message you send needs to be crafted with a bit more care and creativity. [Read: 48 rules & texting etiquette for guys AND girls in the early stages of dating]
Why You’ll Want to Know How to Entertain a Girl Over Text
Thank goodness for technology! We can now connect instantly with just about anyone, anywhere. So, there’s this girl you’re into, and you want to make sure she enjoys texting you as much as you enjoy texting her.
Mastering the art of texting is crucial, as it not only forms the first impression but also sets the tone for all future interactions.
Knowing how to entertain a girl over text can make all the difference, turning ordinary exchanges into delightful conversations that both of you look forward to continuing.
1. Building Initial Attraction
We know that building a connection is hard work. If she’s having fun and enjoying the conversation with you, it sets a strong foundation for whatever might develop. [Read: Interpersonal attraction: What it is, how it works & why we like certain people]
Texting often serves as the first step in exploring a potential connection. Knowing how to entertain a girl over text can really make you stand out from the crowd.
It’s about showcasing your unique personality and creating a comfortable, intriguing space that makes her eager to keep the conversation going.
2. Maintaining Connection
Regular, engaging texts can keep the connection alive between meetings. It helps maintain the momentum of a budding relationship or keep the spark alive in a long-standing one. Effective texting can bridge the gaps created by busy schedules and physical distance.
3. Deepening Emotional Bonds
Through thoughtful and entertaining texts, you can build deeper emotional connections. Sharing jokes, interesting anecdotes, and personal insights *also playlist* can foster intimacy, allowing both of you to feel closer despite not being physically together. [Read: Emotional attraction: 22 signs you have it and why it’s essential]
4. Showcasing Compatibility
By maintaining a text conversation that is both entertaining and insightful, you demonstrate compatibility. It’s a way to show that you can keep up with her humor, share her interests, and engage in meaningful dialogue. This engaging blend of interaction can be a deciding factor in her continued interest.
Every time you connect over a joke or a shared thought, you’ll get her thinking, “Oh, we’re a match!” It subtly reinforces the idea that you two are well-suited, encouraging her to invest more in the conversation and the relationship.
5. Handling Conflicts and Misunderstandings
Knowing how to entertain a girl over text is also about knowing how to defuse tense situations when she feels upset or there’s a misunderstanding. The ability to lighten the mood with a well-timed joke or a thoughtful message can ease tensions and demonstrate your emotional maturity.
This is crucial in preventing small issues from escalating into larger conflicts. Effective communication, especially in delicate situations, shows that you can handle bumps in the road with grace and humor, reinforcing a sense of trust and stability in your interactions. [Read: 31 must-knows to resolve conflict, ut the drama & handle your emotions]
How to Entertain a Girl Over Text
You can absolutely keep a girl’s interest and excite her over text. Here are a few tips on how to go about it.
1. Using Memes
If you’re like me and don’t want to work when you send text messages then memes are invaluable. Memes are shared pictures, sayings, general ideas, or sometimes very short video clips that for whatever reason have become so popular that they get shared over and over again within a culture.
Maybe it’s a still from a movie or some YouTuber who went viral or a presidential blooper moment that got snapped and used by journalists all around the world.
Others are specific to particular cultures such as Jamaican patois. People sometimes write text on top of these images or videos or sayings—to support or make a point or just be funny or satirical.
Maybe you have a still of a cat wearing a small top hat and looking untrustworthy. If a girl says something that seems unbelievable, rather than reply with words, hit her with the meme. Or surprise-meme her during your day with one that made you laugh.
Memes are great because they don’t need a proper reply. They are casual, but often start a fun conversation.
Here’s where the skill comes in: if you use memes that show you’re playful and fun but also show you get the type of culture she’s into, you tap right into her world, which may well be her Twitter and Facebook feed—people these days… [Read: 50 smartass & sarcastic quotes to leave anyone speechless & confused]
2. Writing How You Talk—Just More Punchy
Example:
Her: Hey how are you sweetie?
Me: Good hun x. I went for a run. Super thirsty now @_@
Sometimes, the more you try to be clever or invulnerable or whatever ‘supreme confidence’ persona, the more you come off as odd or insecure. Not everyone has time to sit down and craft a well-thought-out text. We all have busy lives.
Trust that she knows this and doesn’t expect that with every text she sends, you’ll spend 15 minutes thinking about my reply. [Read: 58 texting secrets to text a girl you like & make her want and desire you]
3. Not Overanalyzing Her
This probably makes you seem try-hard. Go with the flow and if something doesn’t make sense, you might just text her ‘Okay… I’m following you *insert confused emoji*’.
4. Making Statements Not Questions
You know the saying *we’ve just made it up by the way*: ‘it’s easy to make a question, it’s hard to make a statement.’ Making a statement tells her about your personality, the way you think, and that you have your own opinion. It’s entertaining to try and decode somebody.
However, a barrage of questions usually makes me feel as if the person’s trying to get something out of me. So, never drill her for answers.
Although it can be fun to drop some daring questions about her interests and personality suddenly and briefly, to catch her off guard.
5. Being Casual *Think X*
Nothing kills entertainment more than when someone cares too much about what others think of them. Or when they’re too structured. When you’re texting to entertain, write as if for some crazy blog, not for a formal essay.
Don’t be afraid to be random, instant, or shocking when looking to entertain. Entertainment is about holding attention and moving it where you want it to. [Read: Ways to become more spontaneous in life]
Think 150 characters rather than 1500 words. You’ll want to leave her wanting more and not as if she has homework to do when she receives a text message from you.
Here’s the key, which serial entrepreneur Gary Vaynerchuk calls ‘document, not create’: you don’t need to create a new text idea or thread every time you send a message.
For instance, you might post a photo of you hanging out with a mate. Ask yourself: what’s happening right now?
Example:
Me: ‘My neighborhood cat is just watching me.’
Her: ‘LOL, what?’
Me: ‘It’s expression kind of reminds me of when you look surprised.’
You can always go back to an old thread if one dies out, because new things are always happening to you. [Read: How to start a text conversation with a girl: 20 rules to impress her]
6. Disagreeing
Nothing is more annoying than a people pleaser. We’ve definitely all been there before. You are way more interesting when you have your own opinions. Avoid being too serious when you disagree if she doesn’t know you well.
7. Talking About ‘We’
This can be used in the silliest of contexts: ‘We should climb Mount Everest this weekend or maybe that’s a bad idea?’ Using ‘we’ creates a feeling of progress in a cool way, as if you build something together.
8. Not Setting a Date/Place/Time to Meet
It can be boring and even annoying when you know what’s going to happen before it happens. Yeah, maybe it’s safe and secure but not exactly exciting.
So, even though you might use ‘we’ to let her know that you intend to do something with her at some point, you’re not overeager to put it all in digital ink. This is an adventure together, not a business deal.
7. Matching the Length of Her Text Messages
If a girl always replies to your messages with a much shorter reply, take this to mean she’s not as invested in you as you are in her.
In that case, slow it down. Anything too abundant in supply and too low in demand usually has low value, let alone low entertainment value. [Read: Playing hard to get with a girl: Mistakes guys make & how to do it right]
8. Avoiding Emojis if She Doesn’t Reciprocate
This keeps more mystery with regard to my level of excitement and interest. If you’ve experimented with using lots of emojis and suspect it makes you seem too keen if it’s only one-way.
9. Being Cheeky
The problem with text messages is that you can’t give a nod and a wink when you’re being playful. But you don’t need to when you can send a ;-).
Emojis also let you get away with more than you would think. So when you send a risqué message that might surprise her, just add a 
afterward. We all have busy lives and don’t have the time to read between the lines constantly, this helps her know you’re being cheeky.
10. Doing These and Seeing How She Reacts
You can show different sides of you and see how she reacts to it. You might:
a. Be bold – ‘Yeah, I kill people for a living.’
b. Be cheeky – ‘Sp, what are you wearing right now?’ [Read: 66 flirty, naughty & funny questions to ask a girl you like & leave her tingly]
c. Be cocky – ‘My nickname is God.’
d. Be complimentary – ‘Wow, you are seriously cute, love that pic.’
11. Not Always Being Available
Distance makes the heart grow fonder. Don’t text a girl on a Friday or Saturday unless you already created the habit of meeting her on those days. Don’t text her because those days are for people who are actually part of your social life in person.
Don’t always reply immediately. You might leave it a day in some cases. Other times you might have a text marathon— play it by ear. Also, if she delays in her reply for a significant amount of time, then you might give it a bit of time before you reply.
Casual, playful, unpredictable, challenging, and fearless are good approaches for entertaining text. Keeping some mystery and unavailable at times lets her do the rest of the work for me in her imagination [Read: How to text your crush & 44 things to say to get them really interested]
12. Talk About Shared Interests
When you know what she enjoys, weave those topics into your conversations. This shows that you pay attention and value her interests.
For instance, if she loves a particular TV show, you could text about a funny episode or a surprising plot twist. Keeping the discussion centered on shared passions can make texting more engaging and personal.
13. Playful Teasing
Keep the mood light with some playful teasing that can make her laugh and prompt her to tease you back. Be careful with your words—teasing should always feel fun and never hurtful. Playful teasing can add a flirty tone to your texts and show that you are comfortable with her.
Make sure your teasing is received well and adjust accordingly. For instance, if she mentions how she’s terrible at cooking, you might joke, “So, should I sign us up for a cooking class, or would you prefer to risk it and be in charge of dinner?”
This kind of teasing is lighthearted and shows you’re paying attention to her stories. It’s a little nudge that’s fun if done right, allowing you to playfully challenge each other while keeping the atmosphere buoyant.
14. Send Voice Notes
Sure, you can’t see each other, but there’s no reason why you can’t send a voice note. Switching up your texts with voice messages can make your interaction feel more personal and intimate. [Read: Hacks to have a sexy voice & seduce anyone with the way you talk]
She can hear exactly how you sound when you say what you say, capturing the nuances of your emotions and enthusiasm that text alone might miss.
It breaks the monotony of typed-out messages and can convey your feelings and personality more directly, adding a whole new layer of connection to your conversation.
15. Ask for Her Opinion
Everyone likes to feel valued, and asking for her opinion on a topic you know she’s interested in can keep the conversation flowing. Whether it’s a fashion choice, a tech gadget, or a life decision, showing that you respect her views can boost her engagement and comfort in the conversation.
16. Initiate Spontaneous Challenges
What’s more entertaining than a little spontaneous competition? Challenge her to games or tasks like snapping a photo of something unusual in her day or doodling a quick sketch on a theme you choose.
These playful exchanges boost creativity and inject dynamic fun into your conversations. They’re a great way to keep her intrigued and looking forward to your texts, adding a layer of interaction that goes beyond just words. [Read: 24 fun challenges to do with friends to bond & create fun memories]
17. Share Random Fun Facts
Surprise her with random fun facts related to topics she likes or even just general knowledge. It’s a great way to spark new topics of conversation and show your quirky side.
Sharing fun facts not only demonstrates your interest in sharing interesting snippets with her, but it’s also a low-key flex of what you know—like dropping a little knowledge bomb with a wink. These bits of trivia can be fantastic conversation starters and show that you’re both fun and intellectually engaging.
18. Music and Podcast Recommendations
Share music tracks or podcast episodes you think she might like. Expert tip: Create a collaborative playlist! Voilà, you now have a growing list of songs that both of you like and share. Discussing a song or a podcast episode can lead to deeper conversations and shared experiences, even if you’re not physically together.
This way, each addition to the playlist becomes a new avenue for connection, helping you both discover and enjoy each other’s tastes in real time. [Read: The absolute sexy lovemaking playlist guide]
19. Encourage Future Plans
Discussing future possibilities sure is exciting but more than that, it taps into the psychological concept known as future pacing. This technique involves visualizing future activities or events, which can help strengthen the bond between two people by creating a shared expectancy.
Talk about a concert of a band both of you like, a new restaurant you want to try, or a movie you should watch together. By doing this, you’re not only keeping the anticipation alive but also using a subtle psychological strategy to increase her interest in spending time with you.
It shows that you’re interested in doing things together in the future and helps cement the idea of a shared journey, enhancing emotional investment.
List of Absolute No-Nos in Texting
It’s easy to focus on the do’s when learning how to entertain a girl over text, but it’s equally important to be aware of the don’ts. Avoiding certain pitfalls can be just as crucial for keeping the conversation enjoyable and engaging.
Below is a list of absolute no-nos that can help you steer clear of common texting faux pas and ensure your conversations remain fresh and appealing.
1. Avoid Excessive Compliments
While occasional compliments are appreciated, overdoing it can make you seem insincere or desperate. It’s important to balance compliments with normal conversation. Focus on topics that engage her intellectually and emotionally rather than constantly praising her looks or style. [Read: 53 flirty things to say to a girl to compliment her & make her blush]
2. Don’t Bombard Her with Texts
You’re trying to entertain her, not annoy her. Sending too many texts in a short period can overwhelm her and come off as clingy. Instead, let the conversation unfold naturally with pauses and space for her to respond at her own pace. Respecting her time and space is crucial—if she’s interested, she’ll make sure to reply.
3. Steer Clear of Sensitive Topics
Avoid bringing up controversial or sensitive issues unless you know her very well and are certain of her comfort level with such topics. Texts can easily be misinterpreted, and sensitive subjects might lead to misunderstandings or discomfort.
4. Never Lie or Exaggerate
Honesty is key in any relationship, even if it’s just budding. We know how tempting it might be to make up a story, like that time you supposedly hitchhiked with pirates in the Caribbean, but resist the urge. [Read: Lying by omission in a relationship: 50 examples, why we lie & how to avoid it]
Avoid the temptation to lie or exaggerate about your life, achievements, or interests to make yourself seem more interesting. Truths always have a way of surfacing, and dishonesty can seriously damage trust. Stick to the real stories—they’re often more interesting than fiction anyway.
5. Do Not Use Overly Sexual Texts
Unless you are both comfortable and consent to such exchanges, steer clear of overly sexual texts. Prematurely sexual content can be off-putting and may send the wrong message about your intentions. That is so not entertaining.
6. Avoid One-Word Responses
Responding with “yeah,” “no,” “k,” or “lol” repeatedly can kill the conversation’s momentum. Here’s the thing: you don’t have to respond immediately.
If you’re busy, let her know and catch up later in the day when you can give her more attention and come up with meaningful, entertaining conversation. Show interest by elaborating on your responses and asking follow-up questions to keep the dialogue engaging.
7. Refrain from Gossiping
Let’s be honest, spilling the tea can be entertaining, but when it comes to texting the girl you’re interested in, it’s best to keep the conversation clean of gossip. [Read: Negative Nancy: What makes one, traits & ways to deal with their attitude]
Speaking ill of others might make her wonder what you say about her when she’s not around. Instead, focus on keeping the conversation positive and respectful.
8. Do Not Overuse Emojis
As we mentioned above, do not use emojis if she doesn’t reciprocate. Emojis can be great for expressing feelings or adding tone to your texts, but overusing them can make your messages hard to read or seem juvenile. Use them sparingly to enhance your words, not replace them.
9. Avoid Making Assumptions
How to entertain a girl over text does not include overanalyzing everything she says, and that extends to assuming how she might or might not feel about you based on her texting style or frequency.
Jumping to conclusions can lead to misunderstandings and strain the interaction. Instead, communicate openly if you’re unsure about something.
Asking clarifying questions can help you understand her true feelings and intentions, ensuring that your conversations remain grounded in reality. [Read: How to tell someone how you feel about them & share your feelings]
Let the Texts Flow Naturally
Putting an effort into making sure that the girl you’re texting is entertained shows that you care about the quality of your conversations.
The key to texting is not just to keep her entertained but to tickle both your fancies. By applying these tips, you’re not only enhancing your texting game but also laying the groundwork for a relationship filled with fun, respect, and understanding.
[Read: 42 happy & naughty ways to keep a relationship exciting, fun & fresh]
Mastering how to entertain a girl over text isn’t just about keeping her amused, it’s also about creating an engaging, reciprocal dialogue where both of you find joy and connection. So keep these pointers in mind, stay true to yourself, and let the texts flow naturally.
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