“I approached a girl in the mall and told her that I thought her body was beautiful. She smiled and said “Thank you.” She was ecstatic. I wasn’t nervous [saying it], but I felt like it was wrong. But then as I saw the positive reaction from her and the other girls I said this to, I started feeling empowered. I developed a unusual sense of confidence… I’m a sexual male, and know that they are sexual women. And that it’s natural to act as such.
A proper and honest sexual expression is powerful, and in our society, rare. In fact, there’s a LOT of societal pressure to hide and disassociate from our sexuality. Many of us grow up with a great deal of sexual shame. And not only does this keep us afraid of expressing our sexual desires openly, but it creates an unhealthy neediness and worship of sex.
Because honest and respectful demonstrations of sexuality are so rare, not only are women aroused by it, but it often hits them like a breath of fresh air.
THE ‘WHY?’ QUESTION
What gets lost in most of the dating advice out there, and what is so fundamentally important to your happiness and success with the women you meet, is why you behave in certain ways rather than others.
In communication, what motivates your behavior is just as important as the behavior itself.