Myth #5: To stimulate the G-spot, make a come hither stroking motion with your finger
The G-spot’s primary erogenous zone in most women (not all) is the urethral sponge which has a distinctive texture of ridges, bumps, and grooves surrounded by smooth, tight tissue. Think of it as feeling a wrinkled raisin surrounded by smooth grapes.
To stimulate this area, most sexologists recommend you insert a finger into her vagina with the palm up and then make a come hither motion.
Yeah, sorry, you are not beckoning a Labrador Retriever. Unfortunately, the come hither technique is not that simple.
First, I suspect many women don’t like the G-spot stimulated because their partner does not start slowly. So start with one finger while gradually increasing the pressure.
The next problem is technique. Remember that this “spot” is a bit of a diva. The Skene’s glands do not have receptors for touch stimulation. So unlike other erogenous zones that respond to light caresses, this area responds more to pressure than to touch.
In fact, the G-spot is so sensitive to pressure that you can even stimulate it from the outside by pressing on the top of the pubic bone below the navel while inserting a finger, toy, or penis.
This pressure creates a sort of pleasure panini sandwich. Think of the top sandwich bread as the downward pressure on the pubic bone and the bottom bread as the upward pressure inside her vaginal canal. Meanwhile, the salami is the erogenous zone getting smushed together. (Sorry for all the food references. It’s lunchtime, and I am hungry.)
Another snafu with G-spot stimulation is the cervix. The cervix is anywhere from 3 to 6 inches inside the vaginal canal. If you put your finger in too deep, you may hit the cervix. Some women like their cervix stimulated. Others will want to punch you in the face.